Okay so…to be 100% honest with you all…I didn’t really know much about stationery until last week. I know, I know, that sounds horrible but I always just deferred any invitation/day of paper questions to the experts (as they know BEST!) But now that the big day had been set, I started to think about my save the dates + invites and since I knew nothing…I needed an invitation education – enter Nichole Michel from Coral Pheasant, my saving grace of knowledge and expertise to help guide me (us!) through this process!
Before our session Nichole had me complete a quick “Get to Know You” survey so she could see what we were interested in learning about and possibly have included in our invitation suite. For those of you who are new to this, like I was, an invitation suite is everything and anything that gets included within the invitation envelope. For example: the reply card, directions card, details card, website information, rehearsal dinner info, etc. It’s really quite a masterpiece! Being ambitious I checked all the boxes: letterpress, foil stamping, wax seals, envelope liners, deckled edge paper…you name it, I picked it!
As we started looking at samples I learned about all of these different techniques and how they would reflect together as a unit. Boiling it down for you we concluded that I was looking for way too much (shocker!) so I had to make some cuts. I really liked the look of letterpress – a technique that uses a printing press to apply pressure from an inked plate onto paper, leaving a deep impression of the design on your invitation in color. It gives a soft but dimensional texture to the paper that's just so beautiful and brings the whole thing to life!
I also fell in love with deckled edge paper – hand made paper that has a feathered edge and gives off a vintag-ey romantic feel. Unfortunately, this did not make the final cut as Joshua quickly compared it to toilet paper (FACE PALM!) - sometimes I wonder about him haha! Quick sidebar for all you beautiful bride to be’s - I did bring Joshua along and he surprisingly had a HUGE opinion on what his likes and dislikes were, so I’m super glad we included him in this process (keep that in mind with your fiance's too!)
We discussed vintage postage, belly bands –which are either a piece of paper or fabric wrapped around the entire invitation suite to hold everything together inside the envelope – and the difference in the paper weights of each component. We chatted about possibly working with an artist to design a custom piece of artwork for us for the invites and envelope liner (how freaking cool is that!!) as well as custom versus digital calligraphy (huge difference in price my friends!) It was truly an awesome evening and I feel like I have a much better understanding of the process and different elements now.
Speaking stationery isn’t so bad once you get the hang of it, but there are SOO many different and creative things you can do. I initially went into the session thinking I wanted all that and a bag of chips – but I left with a completely different mindset. You don’t need EVERYTHING because it just becomes overwhelming and too much for the eyes too look at. Keeping it simple and staying true to your style is key - but of course adding in a few pops of flair for a delightful surprise - is really all you need! I would highly recommend setting up a time to chat with a stationery designer about all of the different aspects to truly nail down what speaks to you and also for them to inspire you to come out of your box a little bit with their magic!
BIG thanks so Nichole for helping us through the initial stages of this process and teaching us the ins and outs of stationery. We have quite a ways to go but we’ll keep you posted as the finished project comes together! I’m still amazed at how much I’m learning from this planning process and it just inspires me to keep going!
photography credit :: Nichole Michel // Coral Pheasant Stationery + Design
LET'S GET REAL | ASHLEY PLANS HER OWN WEDDING | TODAY'S TOPIC -- PLANNING ANXIETY! TOO MANY COOKS IN THE KITCHEN!
What’s up guys! Today I want to chat about ANXIETY – and boy do I have that!! In these past few months of beginning my planning, I’ve come to realize how stressful this whole process is as a bride versus a planner. Being in the industry, I always thought that it would be easy breezy choosing all my vendors and getting everything in place, but NOPE. I had no idea how constantly conflicted I would feel trying to balance pleasing others versus focusing on myself and choosing what I want for my wedding (it is mine and Josh's day after all!)
As I am an early bird, I feel that I do have plenty of time to truly decide who I want to be standing by me on my special day, but I feel I’m being pressured into making the decisions. Everyone keeps asking and asking and asking…and I’m just not ready! Recently a friend of mine got married, and I thought that we were super close, and no doubt in my mind I’d be asked to be in it, but I was wrong and– to be completely honest – basically axed out of her life completely. That really shook me and I now have this fear that someone I don’t ask will be offended and I’ll lose a close friend. I don’t want to crush anyone like that, you feel me? I’m not sure how you all made these choices but I’m STRUGGLING. I guess time will tell and I’ll be sure to introduce you to our party once the final decisions have been made and they say yes!
On another note, writing up our guest list is also supposed to be easy, right? Just coming up with a list of family and friends who we want to share in our special day with, but as we sat down to do so… opinions started FLYING. Realizing that our families are cut from completely different cloths, Josh and I kind of butt heads a little bit about different aspects (attire, inviting children, etc.) and that was unexpected and hard. We don’t usually disagree, so it was extremely tough and to be arguing about our wedding day and seemed ridiculous(!), (this is supposed to be the happiest day of our lives!). Going back and forth between making sure that we didn’t forget anyone, and being respectful of our families wishes/invite requests…freaking EXHAUSTING! We sat down with both mom’s and made sure it was all complete, but I’m super scared that we forgot someone and it gives me anxiety. Just trying to keep my head above water over here!
Finally, choosing a venue was a roller coaster of emotions as well. We toured quite a few different locations, sat in for a food tasting, and finally came to a decision! PHEW… that only took like 3 months. As I called the coordinator to pull together a contract, she told us that our date was no longer available…WHAAAT?! Our date literally got snatched away from us the day before we requested the contract…so it was back to the drawing board, I guess? Either to choose another weekend, or consider having it on a Friday/Sunday…commence panic mode! After asking around, gathering opinions, and making sure that we weren’t asking too much of our guests to have a Friday wedding, I realized something – SCREW THAT! I want to be married that weekend so why did it matter what anyone else thought? So, we decided to pull the trigger and Friday October 4th, 2019 – here we come!
As I work my way through this process, I’m slowly realizing that asking around brings in FAR TOO MANY opinions and it just clouds my vision of what I am dreaming of. I need to constantly remember that I need to choose things that are the perfect fit for us, as the couple, versus what others opinions may be. Keeping in mind that anytime I feel anxious or stressed, I need to bring myself back down to earth and realize that no matter what I choose, it’s going to be the most special day regardless of what anyone says! Keep calm and plan on kittens! Chase your dreams and your day will all come together, don’t let the haters get you down! Tah-tah for now…xxx!
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